I am very very very sorry that I cannot help you with this, honestly I've gone around in circles with rules and laws and ethics and morals and I'm horribly conflicted.
I know it's not much of a consolation, but if I ever decide to buy an AOD doll, I'll be sure to go to you.
Again, I am really sorry to you and to everyone else who has not been as lucky as me to actually get their items. I really wish I was more experienced (after all, I've only been at this for maybe a month?), then I'd probably know better what to do.